I would say 98% not jealous...I take it as a compliment if another woman (or man, if you include 12 clicks) checks out my husband. I've never really been the jealous type I guess...It's a combination of trust and being secure about myself...if it makes sense. Jealousy is an ugly thing and is always a recipe for disaster.
Jealousy is an emotion, and like anger, can be good or bad. I don't think anyone is immune from either jealousy or envy. I am not saying people are wrong for having them or that they should be suppressed, but should be dealt with before trouble rears it's ugly head.
"Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point- that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative- self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them." ~Jennifer James
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