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Originally Posted by Virgule3
I'm torn... I don't know...
I was madly in love with this guy but he couldn't get it up and we were together for 6 years and made love maximum 20 times total. Yes, I admit, I cheated (even though it really isn't me) but I couldn't take it anymore. I had to get something somewhere. He suspected it and officially found out after 4 years and sort of understood...
I left him a year and a half ago. The no sex thing was a big part of why I left but it wasn't the only one.
I have great lovers, I have amazing sex these days but I feel so empty inside. There is this guy... 6'4", the body of a god, and everything is, well, proportionate if you know what I mean and he knows what to do with it... Or another one... 6'2", 23, horny 24/7... anyway... You get the picture...
But yes, I feel really empty inside. There was this guy I mentionned in a post a couple weeks ago but even though he says he has very strong feelings for me, thinks I'm fantastic, etc... he wasn't ready for a relationship... But the feelings were there, the sex was awesome... I couldn't have asked for more...
But if I had to choose one or the other? I really don't know. Today, I say LOVE because I miss being in love, I feel like I'm going to explode, I have so much to give and no one to give it to... But I know from experience that even if the love is the best ever, if there is no sex, it can't last, not for me... It's a necessary part of a relationship for me...
Sophie.
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its not an easy issue.. But a common one if you ask me.. I know several that are in relationships, loving the partner but slowly fading away cause of bad sex or no sex. I also know tons of singles (like myself) that gets great sex, but from time to time wants something more "deep". It really goes in waves.
Its a hard question and hard to choose, and it really comes down to how you are as a person I think. I am 100% into falling in love with someone and staying dedicated, etc, etc.. But the relationship really needs to have that dynamic, explosive "sex connection" to go along with the love. Without the great sex - I slowly realize it wont work. SImply because im such a sexual person. And if I have to choose, I take great sex, simply because I know IŽll always crave that. If I would choose love without it - I would loose the love part.
Love your honest post. ;-)