I (FINALLY) met someone! But, there is a but... :(

[the New Shemp]

Originally Posted by Virgule3

Yup!

I met a wonderful man recently... I just can't believe it. I find him absolutely gorgeous, he is tall, he's got gorgeous shoulder length black curly hair, he has beautiful dark mysterious eyes... He's extremely intelligent, funny, interesting, great education, the sexiest accent ever (he's not from here). He's amazing... And the best damn lover I ever had!!!

BUT... of course, there is a BUT...

His ex is C-R-A-Z-Y!

Sigh... It was too good to be true.

First of all, she broke him, she totally destroyed him, hurt him, brainwashed him into believing he's below average, not that intelligent, (the guy's an architecht for god's sake! He's far from stupid!!!), ordinary looking, etc...

Why do women do that to men?

Plus... They have a 3 1/2 year old son together and when they split up, he moved out, and since then, she has barely let him see his son during a year and a half (that's how long ago they split up) and he absolutely loves his baby and to be able to see him, the only thing he could do was move back in with her!!! (in separate bedrooms, but still)

Why does she do that you ask? Because he's from Algeria and she is convinced that he will kidnap their son and move back there! I understand the fear, it has happened before, but now, since Sept. 11 2001, one parent can't take a child out of the country without written permission of the other parent. Plus, it's not like him at all, I really doubt he would do that! He so doesn't want to hurt anyone.

So, as a result, we almost have to hide to see each other. Plus, he lives an hour from here so it makes things complicated.

But he spent the weekend here. It was amazing... I don't know when I'm going to see him again, I work a lot, he works a lot too... Weekends are often taken for either me or him...

Why does it have to be so complicated???

Thanks for "listening"...

Sophie.

just to be on the safe side, you need to check this guy out...
he could be feeding you a lot of BS ...

[Virgule3]

Originally Posted by the New Shemp

just to be on the safe side, you need to check this guy out...
he could be feeding you a lot of BS ...

Why? Just because he's from Algeria? They are not all terrorists and crazy muslims...

I have known him for a while now, and I'm 99.9% sure he's telling the truth.

[the New Shemp]

Originally Posted by Virgule3

Why? Just because he's from Algeria? They are not all terrorists and crazy muslims...

I have known him for a while now, and I'm 99.9% sure he's telling the truth.

no, its got nothing to do with Algeria, its about him still living with his wife in separate bedrooms...
plus why do you have to "almost hide" when you are together..?

its just plain weird to me...

[Virgule3]

Originally Posted by the New Shemp

no, its got nothing to do with Algeria, its about him still living with his wife in separate bedrooms...
plus why do you have to "almost hide" when you are together..?

its just plain weird to me...

Well, I lived, as roommates, with an ex for a whole year before he met someone and moved out. We were great friends, and the situation both suited us at that time so I believe it is possible to remain friends with an ex and have absolutely nothing happen other than a great friendship.

And we don't "hide hide", but if we are "out in public" it's okay, we can kiss, hold hands, etc, but we have to be careful if we run across a friend of hers because if she finds out about me, she'll kick him out and forbid him to see his son. That's what he's the most afraid of.

She, technically, has no right to do so, but she is crazy, manipulative, how do you say "dependante affective" in English? etc... Anyway, you get the picture.

We aren't officially a couple yet anyway, he has made no promises other than making efforts to come and see me when he gets a break off work (he works crazy hours and lives more than an hour away so it isn't easy) and we plan on going to my cottage soon, going to Montréal to visit my family, etc... So we'll see what the future brings.

[student4ever]

the situation sounds a bit crazy and intense, but you sound happy and that's what really counts

[Virgule3]

Originally Posted by student4ever

the situation sounds a bit crazy and intense, but you sound happy and that's what really counts

Yes, thanks.